A peek into a full-time mama,
wife, daughter, sister-in-law and passionate business owner of Everthine Bridal Boutique.
who lives down by the sea with her one and a half year old son, Camden and husband, Tim.
“It was right after I started my business that I knew I wanted to become a Mother.
I had my husband, I had my business, which was in a way my first born, but there was something that I felt was missing.
I knew I needed more out of life as a whole and that a baby would make my life feel complete.
Harder. And more difficult. But fulfilling.”
“We got married in July. And I always knew Timmy wanted kids but I think he would have preferred to have waited a little longer.
But we both agreed that we would start trying after the Holiday’s.
We’ve been together forever. Then we got married and we were like do we wait? Or do we not wait?
We got pregnant 6 months after our wedding.
There is never ever a perfect time to have kids.
When life is perfect then you’ll be too old to have kids.”
“I was so frustrated that I wasn’t getting pregnant and people were like ‘Chelsea…. you tired once.’
One cycle. One month.
I mean I just thought it was going to happen.
I was so upset.
Some people couldn’t even have this conversation with me.
But then I learned about all of the signs of when my body is ovulating.
You know when you are ovulating.
You feel it. It’s so nuts!”
“I was at my yearly physical talking to my Doctor about getting pregnant.
She asked me when my last period was and I was only a day late.
Before we continued with my phycal she asked me to take a pregnancy test.
I didn’t want to because I could have sworn I was not pregnant.
She walked in with the test and told me I was pregnant.
I kept saying “What?!? What?!!’.
Then I completely lost it.
I just started hysterically crying.”
“I remember driving home and thinking how Tim was going to flip out.
He called me to tell me that he was going to be home a little later than usual to go grab drinks with the guys.
I freaked inside a little bit because I had no idea how I was going to keep this a secret before I saw him in person. I can’t just sit in the house!
So I went food shopping. And bought a ton of pregnancy tests.
He came home I told him. He kept saying ‘Are you sure?!’
‘Yes, Tim, I’m sure!’
No you’re not.’
‘Yes I am.’
‘No you are not!!’
‘Yes I ammmmmmmmm.’
He got to the ground right there and fell, ‘My life if ooovvverrrrr.’
Hahah he was really excited.
Moments after we FaceTimed with my parents.’”
“I went into my pregnancy thinking I would love it.
And I hated it.
I didn’t feel any connection while Cam was inside my belly.
It was two weeks postpartum that I started to feel a connection with him.
When Timmy was out of the house and it was just me and Cam.
But when he first came out like who are you? Where did you come from? How did this happen?
It was fucking freaky! You just came out of my stomach this is crazy!!”
“There’s a little piece of my heart just wondering around and it’s the coolest thing.”
“As a child summers in Nantucket were my favorite.
We would take my father’s old Land Cruiser and drive it up on the beach make our little spot there.
It was countless hours of carefree fun.”
“There’s nothing more that melts my heart than seeing my husband with my child.
Because he doesn’t care how stupid he looks or who he’s in front of he would just do anything to make
Camden smile.
And it’s the cutest thing.”
“Before the baby our relationship was less structured. Much more go with the flow.
It was much more carefree. We would get up and randomly go to Newport for the day.
Or I would randomly rent us a B&B by the shore.
So it was much more spontaneous.
But it felt as if there was something missing. Prebaby. Just the two of us.
We are just such family people that we did feel like we needed more to life.”
“Post baby my relationship with my husband is chaotic yet peaceful.
If that makes any sense. Which it doesn’t.
But in someway it’s like peaceful chaos.
Because there is so much love and that little fatso upstairs adds so much chaos to our life but at the same time he’s the glue that keeps us together.”
“When I was pregnant we would have Cam’s carseat on top of the table just sitting there.
We would be eating dinner and I would comment that it’s not just going to the the 2 of us anymore!
And then we would put him in the car set and ate dinner in the same spot after he was born.
So the dinner table to me it’s symbolizes a lot.
Family. Love. Togetherness.”
“I’m usually the one who puts Camdens lunch together for daycare. Whatever I can do as quick as I can I do like a veggie burger.
Tim chimes in and says he’s always eating the same thing.
So he then takes about a half hour to put Camden’s lunch together.
Like a cucumber tomato and fresh mozzarella salad with olive oil and salt he makes him like a gourmet lunch and it’s so cute!”
“The two of us are pretty lax. We pretty much have the same views for parenthood.
If we didn’t it would be really hard.
We are both no nonsense. No bullshit.
When it’s nap time, it is naptime.
It’s nighttime so you’re taking a tub.
The only difficult thing right now is his eating. Like for lunch today he didn’t want to eat what I gave him because he’s learning to know what he likes and doesn’t.
I thought that was going to be easier. Eating. H
e’s a kid, theres food in front of him and he should eat it!”
“My sister-in-laws are my role models.
They’re not working moms, but their job is harder than any job I’ve ever had.
I look at them everyday and say ‘How on earth do you do this?’”
“He’s so fresh. That is one thing I am not surprised with.
I knew how I was as a child and that kid so has me in him.
He is defiant and stubborn.
He’s a little shit, and I mean that in the most loving way.”
“As a mom you have this natural instinct to do things and you read your child and fathers… they don’t have this touch.
They just don’t how to do it the way we do it. And it’s really hard to tell my husband that he’s doing it wrong because he tires so hard.”
“I never want to forget his giggles.
And I also never want to forget his tricks. I love his tricks!”
“If your wife is asking you to do something just fucking shut up and do it.
There’s a reason why theres a phrase ‘happy wife, happy life’.
Because women are more emotional than men. You know?
Just make them happy and do what they ask.
We don’t ask for a lot. Just empty the dishwasher because I am about to go fold laundry for an hour upstairs.”
“He has to pick his book out. Always.”
“He loves his books.
Books are his favorite.
He love his little dog that he rocks on.
He’s now just starting to learn how to use it.”
“Work life balance. Trying to find a balance.
It’s been really difficult for me to not check my emails.
Being able to turn off while with Cam has been really difficult for me.
That is what I would say is the worst change about being a Mother.
The best change, him. Having a reason to be here.
Just feeling fully fulfilled. That’s the best change in my life.”
“Knowing I have this maternal instinct.
I just know.
You just feel.
You just feel like something is wrong with him.
Like today, he wasn’t acting himself. I knew it.
And sure enough he’s getting his molars in.”
“I thought it would be a lot easier to getting him to sleep.
I just assumed they just knew to go to sleep when it was dark out.
Like they knew it was nap time so they would go to sleep.
I didn’t know I had to like train him to go to sleep!
That was a big surprise for me.
But I made sure I was on it with his sleeping schedule.
There is no way I am not going to let him nap. He needs his sleep!”
“That no matter what that I will do anything and everything to protect him.
I feel so protective over him.
From the world.
From the people in the world.
I’m his mama bear. He doesn’t know what to do yet.”
